How long have you been doing what you do, and how did you become a relationship coach?
To answer this question, it’s probably best that I share with you a defining moment, and a resulting “compelling story”, that brought me to where I am today – coaching people like you on exactly what to do to find love again after a devastating heartache and have a strong, healthy relationship again. That defining moment in my life happened in 2007.
A few months prior I quit my well-paying and high stress job in banking to give a year of service - as in no pay - overseas. I had been floating from career to career since graduating University and was determined to find my purpose before I turned 30 years old.
I loved the idea of serving others and wanted to find out how to be a contribution. But I had this problem with creating relationships. Being in customer service taught me a lot about how people deal with money - but didn't allow me to really connect with them. In my year of service, I was now a teacher and dorm assistant supervisor and in actual charge of building relationships - go figure!
You know how you can't see yourself - but everyone else can see those flaws? Yup, that was me. I thought I was doing ok until a parent of one of my elementary students told me that her daughter was afraid of me. I was intimidating and she was scared to come to school!
Then, a couple of my high school students told me they couldn't stand me. I honestly had a huge blind spot about how I came off.
They told me I was really mean and aggressive and that I had to get my temper under control. I had moved to the other side of the world to live in a dorm with no paycheck just to hear that I was an unlikeable jerk who scared people away?
All I kept saying to myself was: “How did my life end up like this?! How did I end up at 29 years old, with no set career and no hope of a spouse, life partner or family of my own? How did I become this person who just burns bridges in all my relationships? How will I ever meet new people or have them in my life when I don't even know what I'm doing to make this happen?!?”
I made a decision right then and there that I was going to figure out this whole “relationship thing”, this emotional education thing even if it kills me! At that very moment, I made a commitment to immerse myself in absolutely everything that had to do with communication and connection: I got into a certificate program in Family Life Education at my local University, attracted a job in a school working with kids in the classroom and doing after school programs on relationships. Talk about a turn around! I made my intentions to create such outstanding and memorable programs, that the kids who participated would keep in touch with me and share with me their progress.
The real truth to my transformation was when I met my husband. I had a clear idea of what I needed to reach my potential and to put into practice all the great skills I had picked up, and boy did God deliver! Now I am married with a beautiful family and quit my job to focus full-time on creating my relationship institute empire.
In no time, I wrote a book about coping with heartbreak called “Lifehacks for Heartache: seven healthy ways to cope with a broken heart.” In 7 months, I had gone from being a former public servant and full-time stay-at-home-mom to having an outstanding business and living a dream of being in a power couple!
Who are your clients?
I coach excellent people who are struggling to connect and to maintain relationships to catapult their communication, too! I have since made a commitment to men and women with a trail of decomposing relationship corpses behind them to become whole and free, and to find love again.
Since then, I’ve worked with many private clients, spoken in front of countless groups and I have created the Catapult your Communication and Connection System, three phases every person who is ready to find or rediscover love again needs to apply to get out of their own way and connect with people at a whole new level of joy, connection and satisfaction faster than they ever imagined. I have also created a special system for individuals who are really struggling with a recent separation, the Six Weeks to Process and Progress from your Split System, with six essential steps to follow while I hold your hand to get you through this painful time.
I work with people just like you who are fantastic and motivated with so much love to offer—but it gets tangled up in the delivery and confusion of misunderstood language, lack of clarity of needs, and the inexperience of resolving conflict in an empathic and emotionally intelligent way. In particular, I aim to serve men and women between the ages of 30 and 55, who are single with a big breakup behind them, hitting the bottom of the relationship bucket, having trouble connecting with new potential love interests, and need to learn strong interpersonal communication.
What makes you different from other “relationship coaches?”
Well, I’m a practical creature, and will expect you to PRACTICE. Communication is LANGUAGE OF VOICE AND BODY. Emotional Education is a NEW LANGUAGE to be learned. You want to be fluent? Then FORGET about FEELING EMBARASSED OR SHEEPISH! I’m concerned with how to get you to find love again. I am direct, supportive, loving, and have high standards. You will hear my feedback and it might sting, and I will applaud and celebrate your progress. Bur this isn’t a program for delicate flowers. This is a program of RESULTS. To get results, you have to grow, and with that comes growing pains. You will stay who you are, with behaviours that better represent who you are at your core.
What type of personality do you work best with and what is expected of me?
The Find Love Again as well as the Whole & Free workshops, products, and programs were created for people who are absolutely dead serious about improving their interactions with others, especially on a romantic level. It means, not running around all day telling yourself you’re unlovable or broken. They were created for you to put systems in place within a few months (sometimes weeks!), which will eventually lead you to clear emotional baggage, convert unhealthy communication habits to concise, constructive ones, and get clear on what you need to give and receive from a life partner.
Being a self-aware character hacker myself, I’m known to work best with other self-aware character hackers, people who are committed to their success no matter what who are super-ready to get going and just want to know exactly what steps to take to get along better with others and identify your ideal life partner and situation. My clients often tell me – “just tell me what to do and I’ll do it!” Consider what you’ll do with me to be a high-octane crash course on everything you need to know to finding a partner you can have a long-lasting, fulfilling relationship with. You will be expected to take serious and consistent action. No excuses anymore, just a very different way of thinking and full support while you achieve this incredibly exciting goal: forming your power couple.
What exactly are the Find Love Again: Catapult your Communication and Connection system and the Whole & Free: Six Weeks to Process and Progress your Split system, and what do they include?
Find Love Again: Catapult your Communication and Connection is a twelve-week program that functions in three phases: to get over your past, get clear on your present, and get a plan for your future love. It begins with understanding yourself, building your self-awareness, and moves into developing your communication skills on a practical level. The third phase tackles clearly identifying where you stand on values, dealbreakers, watermarks, passions, and challenges to finally understand what you WANT in a partner, not only what you DON’T WANT. The Whole & Free program is designed for people who are stuck and struggling with a breakup, by focusing on processing what happened and how to let it go through mindset shifts and rearranging the narrative.
Here’s what the Systems get you to do:
Catapult your Communication and Connection System
Phase 1
- The whys and hows of what happened
- Making peace with the past
- Mindset work to reprogram your brain and prime you for growth
Phase 2
- Your position on the change cycle
- Your hangups & triggers
- Impulse control
- Learning non-violent communication and filtering white-noise
- Practicing boundary setting and assertive language
- Balancing biology and psychology
- The magic of reframing
- Pushing the ego aside
Phase 3
- Values
- Dealbreakers
- Watermarks
- Passions
- Opening the heart…and the mind
- The final recipe
Six Weeks to Process and Progress your Split System
- Getting the story out
- Controlling the narrative
- Perspective and reframing
- Building unshakeable confidence and ending self-sabotage
- Identifying missteps
- Saying goodbye to the past and making peace with your experience
Does this really work?
Yes! The result of our work is an approach to shifting your mindset and getting the behaviour practice that will ready you for fearlessly interacting with your future loved one.
What results can I expect?
You can expect to:
- Have big breakthroughs and ah ha moments
- Find more peace and compassion
- Anxiety dissipates and peace and calm sets in
- Creating new standards for yourself
- Reaching for your passions in life
- Discover yourself & set goals and reach them
- Feel empowered & excited about the future
- Fall back in love with yourself
- Vibrate as a loving being, and become truly unconditionally loving with all your relationships (even the most intense ones that normally trigger you)
- Develop more compassion for yourself and others
- Be clear concise and honest in your communication
- Create healthy boundaries
- Have more ease and grace in your life
- Truly love the version of yourself that shows up to play this game called life
- Learn how to say NO and honor your yes and nos
- Find your happiness
- Watch your best life unfold with ease
- Create DEEP intimacy and meaning in your personal relationships
- End the drama cycles and patterns
- Raise your self-esteem and self confidence
- Rewrite your story
- Open your heart and expand into your TRUE being
- How to see your relationships as mirrors and open channels for transformation
- Gain unshakeable confidence in yourself – (a lot of my clients tell me that is worth the investment alone).
- Learn proven techniques for releasing your internal resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies so you can take action and start living your passion and purpose with ease.
- Get crystal clear on what YOUR power couple is.
How quickly can I expect results?
That depends on how quickly you can make those inner shifts. Some clients are ready to go and put themselves out there to find love againin a very short time frame, sometimes even a few weeks, while others have a bit more work to do first. It also depends on where you are in the change cycle and what story you’re coming from.
How can I guarantee myself that I will catapult my communication and connection or process and progress my split in record time?
Do all of your homework. Be totally committed to your success. Understand that this is a process, a proven one, that works if you take action and implement all of the steps. All my clients who have diligently applied every step of the Catapult your Communication and Connection System or the Six Weeks to Process and Progress from your Split have successfully broken their cycles of self-sabotage and unhealthy communication habitsin much less time than they would have on their own AND have gone on to confidently form their power couple.
Roxanne, based on everything I’ve read and heard about you, I know you’re the one I want to learn from. What are my options for getting started with you?
Congratulations on making a decision for success! I’m happy to work with you to achieve your relationship goals. I prefer to work one on one with my clients to really help them FASTER results and am now offering more intense programs. To get started, you would need to answer some preliminary questions to see whether you qualify for either one of my programs here.
OK, I’m ready to do this for myself, but I have a couple of additional questions. Can I call you?
Good, sounds like you’re ready to be pulled into your future! Yes, if you have a couple of questions, just email me at roxanne@roxannehomayun.com I’ll be happy to walk you through the different options to see which one will be the very best for you. I can’t wait to see you succeed and am honored to be the one to help you. Let’s get going!
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